guru and disciple
in a harry potter 3, there's a scene
he thought his father saved him
but it was all himself
however esoteric-bs-like that sounds - that's exactly the way it works
not in the sense that there's no one to help you and you should just push harder and be ruthless warrior
but in the sense, that at some point you'll be further on the way, than others
you'll be the one who can help
compassion is born from the memory of pain
someone left notes to you
leave your notes to someone else
you can't go to past and save yourself
but you can help someone going through the same struggles